Found a perfect partner? Oh, wait, that perfect partner is no longer very perfect as he’s going to have to live with you for a while, or forever…
Have no fear, if you know what you are doing, living with your partner is pretty simple stuff.
I’ve had 2 partners now come live with me. The first one was only for a month. He was physically and mentally abusive on the ice and sat around playing MW3 eating nutella all day. Not to mention he had visa issues and had to return to his own country.
The second, my current partner, is going really smoothly.
Here, I’ll make it even simpler and pin point some tips and tricks to make this whole ordeal, well, more than workable.
- Give eachother some space. Set up some guidelines. You get the upstairs, your partner gets the downstairs, or visa-versa. After a hard practice they won’t want you breathing down their throat, and you wouldn’t want them to either. Skating can be hard, and I guarantee that after an argument or fight on the ice, your gonna want some alone time, once you get home from skating, go to your own rooms or areas and do whatever you need to (school work!) by yourself.
- Become friends, they’re like your new siblings, you will fight, but you also need to be friends. Got nothing to do on a friday night? You have your partner. Don’t pester them to come watch tv with you or hangout with you if they don’t want to, but if everyone is in a good mood a ‘wanna go play some videogames’ or ‘wanna watch the new Will Ferrel movie’ is a good start. Don’t forget though, this is your PARTNER, not your boyfriend, make sure to keep them just your partner. The offer to watch a movie is not an invitation to have a cuddle session.
- You don’t need to do everything together. Just like the first tip, you will need some alone time. Each partner should have their own set of friends they can go to, even if your partner is home it doesnt mean you need to be there to, they like their space. Let your partner make friends to, he can go out and chill with some friends whenever he wants too, don’t lock him in the basement.
- They are part of the family, if you are both underage you have to remember that it’s hard to be without your parents. Your partner is part of the family now, they come to dinners, family outings, the store, they eat with you at dinner time. If your family wants to do something, they are now invited. If they don’t want to come, thats fine, they can hangout with their own friends, but your mom is now theirs and your dad is also your partners dad now.
- Parents, enforce rules and act like a parent. Just because you didn’t give birth to them doesn’t mean you don’t tell them to do their homework or to go to bed. True, you have to be a little bit more lenient, but just because they didn’t come out of you doesn’t mean you can’t treat them like your own. If they have a problem or need advice or homework help, they should be able to come to you. Even if the issue is about your own child.
- Pick your battles, try your hardest NOT to fight or argue. It makes the whole ordeal so much more enjoyable if you don’t fight often. I know it’s bound to come up, but if it’s over something silly count to 10 and move on.
- Feed them healthily and take them where they need to go. Simple as that. The partner won’t apprcieate it if you won’t take him to the gym or store when they need it, and they also won’t like eating take out or pizza every night of the week. They need training food, and they need to know their partner is eating training food. Give them access to the kitchen and let them make lunchs, don’t make them buy their own food at the rink every day (unless that is the agrement.) Pizza on a rare friday night is fine, but healthy home cooked meals that the family eats as a whole is much much much better.